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Was I Wrong?

Lately I think my friends think that I’ve been ignoring them, which isn’t the case. I have just been trying to adjust to my new major and have a mind of my own. Since August 9th, we have spent almost every waking moment together. By any means this isn’t a bad thing, I was just starting to feel that my individual self was being overshadowed. While I was trying to break away from the group, they were still holding on. I am an introvert and we need our time to regroup and focus on our goals. Given that I am an Orientation Leader, I had to be “on” for a total of 3 weeks and by the middle of September I was worn out. Granted, I didn’t have to be “on” I just wanted to make sure the freshman were well acquainted on campus before I could be with the crowd.

During week 1, my friends and I were merry and full of cheer until I noticed that we were all attaining different personal goals. In result of this, I saw the need to separate myself from the group. According to the Knapp’s Relation Development Model, my friends were at the differentiating stage while I was still at bonding. As I was learning this in class, it triggered something in me. Had I come to point in my life where all of my friends had something going for themselves and I didn’t for myself? Was I not being supportive like I should have been? That moment sent me on the verge of a breakdown. My anxiety, of not having my life in order, went crazy. In the span of two days I had a total of 8 espresso shots and an outstanding amount of caffeine to calm my nerves. I hadn’t experienced anything like that in my life. I had to call my best friend Jeremy to make sure I wasn’t going insane, which I was. When I asked him he told me to get over it. So I tried to get past this feeling, but my attitude had changed in how I behaved around my friends.

Going into week 2, I tried to be supportive of my friends’ life goals but I couldn’t. By this point, caffeine wasn’t the answer instead I went shopping at Target. We all know that you shouldn’t walk into a Target when vulnerable. In result of that, I spent $100. Not only did I leave still feeling empty, but also broke. So now I’m thinking about how I am going to make it through the week with very little funds and how I can be a better friend. To buy myself some time, I started hanging out with other people. My friend thought I was leaving them behind, but really I wasn’t. Towards the end of the week I gave up being distant. I realized they needed me but I didn’t see that. For 2 weeks I’ve been walking around blind. Now headed into week 3, I am going to give my friends the personal attention they deserve. I’m Trying! It’s hard being a non-emotional person in group of emotional people.

Next time any one feels as if I’m ignoring you, I’M NOT!! I just need time to regroup and focus. :) Please forgive me?!

A Word of Advice

For everyone starting college for the first time (especially those right out of high school), it can seem like an overwhelming experience. You have harder classes, a larger homework load, and, more importantly, a lot more freedom. It can be very easy to get swept up in the social life of college while trying to balance your school work. The best advice I can give, from everything I’ve learned, is make time for yourself.

Learn to make some time each day or each week, even if it’s only 30 minutes, to relax and breathe. Go for a walk, read a book, sit in a coffee shop, etc. Just take some “me” time to unplug from the world and concentrate on recharging your batteries. Even extroverted people should take some time to have a breather. It can be good for your mental, physical, and emotional health; which is very important in the fast paced life of college. I would also say make extra time to get enough sleep as well. If you’re well rested you’ll be more alert in class and your immune system will be better able to fight off illness. Always remember to take care of yourself, a little bit goes a long way.


A must have!

Coming into Fontbonne University or any college, I would encourage any student to have some sort of relaxation time frame. This time is to be stress free from all the due dates, exams, practices, and games you may have going on. If you do not keep some sort of peace in your life you will lose yourself though out your entire college life. College is a fast-paced environment. Everything has a go, go, go attitude. You must keep a piece of yourself. Find time to mellow down and communicate with family members. I feel like once you are thrown into this college lifestyle it is so easy for you to lose yourself. I’m not saying take too much time off, but keep it reasonable. As a Fontbonne Griffin, you can’t live without knowing who you are. Make sure you are growing as a college student and make the grades. Don’t let them make you!

Writer’s Block

Hello World! I am sorry for not posting last week. I was having a moment and I could not get it together; turns out I had writer’s block! After one post I was already out of ideas. I have ideas but I didn’t know how to put them on paper. I did not know how to formulate them into words. SMH (shaking my head) I know I said I was going to post on Thursdays and Sundays but I just have nothing. Not to mention I have yet to make a Sunday post… Mondays will be the new Sundays because it only makes sense.

Last week was not a good week. I felt like I was being trapped into a box without any ventilation. As dramatic as this sounds, it’s true. For some reason I felt as if my life was passing me by without warning. At one point I was on solid ground, then I was skating on ice. Soon, the ice began to melt and I was trapped. I was freaking out so much I didn’t even know what was going on. This past weekend helped me breathe and calm down. I went apple picking at Eckert’s and it was amazing. Campus Ministry hosted the event and it was a nice outing to relax and pick apples along with apple cider. The apple cider was delicious and life was evening out.

This week has been steady. Like I said earlier, I was having a moment. I’m not sure what was going on. Now that I have word vomited everywhere, have a good week? My next post will be better. I promise… :)

What’s my Biggest Challenge in College?

I think my biggest challenge in college is really my time management of how I can balance my study, work, and my leisure time nicely. Having an opportunity to study abroad, I always feel that I have to study very hard in order to best utilize my time studying in the United States. Thus, I often give myself so much pressure on studying. Sometimes, I felt so overwhelmed that I couldn’t handle my stress and felt suffocated. One of the best ways for me to relieve my stress is chatting with my friends since I can distract a bit from my heavy workload and just being express my emotion helps me a lot (refresh my mind). Also, now I find a good idea to just go run at forest park to relieve my stress.

I know studying is sometimes very boring and stressful, but I always keep reminding myself that after getting through this time, I will have a better future and pursue the dream job that I like. That’s my Motivation to Move On!!!!Cheers to you all!!!!

Self-love and Stress Reduction

My biggest challenge in college has been stress management and making time for myself.  I think it’s extremely important to take care of one’s self and have “me time”, time to spend with friends and time to do the hobbies that you most enjoy.  Balance is key.  Does that ideal always happen for me?  Well, not quite.

Despite my best intentions, I often neglect my well-being for the sake of getting more stuff done.  I want to feel “more-productive”, and when I take out time doing nothing, or watching a few episodes of my favorite show on Netflix I often feel “lazy” or “selfish” for taking time to do something mindless.

Earlier today I was talking with a friend who reminded me how important taking time for myself can be.  She told me how she has changed the way she approaches stress in the academic setting.  She has been forgiving of herself when she doesn’t get “the perfect grade” and stays mindful when she feels something isn’t worth stressing over.  According to her, it has made all the difference in her overall stress level.  This served as a reminder to me that in order to be the “more-productive” student that I want to be, I must first take care of myself.  It isn’t selfish or lazy to do something mindless.  It isn’t the end of the world if you take a day off from school work to have fun with your friends or family.  Getting assignments done is important, but you are the most important thing in your life.  If you take care of yourself, productiveness will follow.

A little self-love and forgiveness goes a long way.

If you’re interesting in more detailed Stress-Reduction Tips, click the link below for an article by the Greatist.


-Katie H.


3 Quick Ways To Feel Less Stressed

3 Quick Ways To Feel Less Stressed

Well Fontbonne, we are now about a month into the spring semester. Are you feeling the stress yet? Because I sure am! Assignments, readings, and projects are starting to pile up, on top of working two jobs and managing my social life (or at least pretending like I have one!)

But during these times, I remember my favorite quote, “Diamonds are made under pressure.” Who said it? Well… I don’t really know. But it is a powerful saying either way! By learning how to handle life’s stressors, we will truly be able to shine above the rest!

Here are some quick ways to help you defrazzle during a hectic week!

1. Take Deep Breaths

Next time you find yourself rushing to finish that paper, do a self-check. Are you breathing normally or taking short, sporadic breaths? I find when I am really having a stressful day, my breaths are very short and shallow. Sounds silly that we might have to remind ourselves to breathe, but by taking a few deep breaths we allow more oxygen into your body. This, in turn, slows down your heart beat and helps lower your blood pressure, helping us feel more relaxed. Simply inhale counting to 3 and then exhale counting to 3. Do this about 3 times to help you destress.

2. Laugh 

There are so many benefits to laughing, which is why I believe we should laugh every single day! One of those benefits is, in fact, that it helps us relax. Laughing helps lower the stress hormones in our bodies and helps loosen the tension in our muscles when stressed. So go search YouTube for some of those funny, cute cat videos! They always give me a good chuckle!

3. Exercise

We all know exercise is essential for overall health, but it can vastly improve your mood and stress levels as well! When you exercise, your body releases endorphins that help lift your spirits and reduce anxiety (also known as “Runner’s High.”) Even a simple 10-minute walk or a quick Sun Salutation can help reduce your stress!

What are some ways that help you relieve stress?!

Also, be sure to check out my personal blog, The Wholey Trinity, for more health and wellness tips!

-XOXO Hannah

Finals, Finals, and More Finals!

Well, it’s that time of year again. It’s the time of year we dread because of finals, but we also look forward to since it means winter break is coming up. Finals week and the week before finals are always stressful for college students. The pressure of doing well on finals is always a heavy burden students carry on their shoulders. I have a couple tips that might help you get through finals week a little easier.

1. Don’t forget to sleep the night before a final. I know college students feel that they need to pull an all-nighter before the day of their final so they can soak up all the possible information that might be on their final. While it sounds like a good idea, a good night’s rest is honestly more important. Sure you can stay up a little later that night and wake up a little earlier on the day of your final to do some extra studying, but there is no need to stay awake for 24 hours to study for a final. It’s all about managing your time and pacing yourself to study for finals a week or two ahead of time so you won’t have to pull an all-nighter the night before the big day.

2. It’s not the end of the world if you don’t get that perfect score on your final. It will bring your grade down, but your life isn’t going to end because of it. You will still have your friends and your parents will still love you. Once you get your grade back for your final, there is nothing left for you to do, so you just have to accept what you got and move on. Don’t let the bad grade ruin your winter break. It’s not worth it!

Maybe these tips will help you during finals week as they will help me!


Hello Everyone,
It is around midterm time! I have taken one and have another one waiting for me this week. These major tests always result in super stress and a very forgetful mind. I think I might have lost something at least 5 times! It could be a pen, my phone, a homework assignment, car keys, anything! Whenever my mind is fragmented into a million tiny thoughts I need an outlet. My stress free, midterm free time is yoga. Yoga, if you don’t already know, is a form of exercising that focuses on stretching, breathing, and recognizing that you, as a human being, need a moment of nothing; nothing being no thoughts at all, only thinking of breathing in and out. We fill up our schedules so much with classes, work, sports, friends, homework, and barely leave time for ourselves. I find yoga extremely relaxing, but everyone has a different outlet.

What do you do? Read? Run? Sing and dance? If you don’t do anything, I IMPLORE you to try it! It doesn’t have to take a long time. Just try something to release the crazy! It will help more than you can imagine!

End of Year Stress

As we only have about two and half weeks left of this year (can’t wait to be able to say I completed my freshman year of college!), everything is beginning to pile up. Teachers are at the point where they are realizing they don’t have as much time left to teach us everything they need/want to, so they begin to add more and more and after a while you look at your Griffin Scratch and wonder, “When am I supposed to have time to do all this, eat, sleep, and still keep up hygiene and NOT go insane?!”

Okay, so not maybe everyone’s thought process, but when you work at least four nights a week like I do, it is really overwhelming when you just think about all the work that has to be done these next few weeks.

I keep telling myself that I can do this, I can get all the work done, and I will succeed and then I can enjoy summer! I have been giving myself a few little stress breaks lately that include: Ted Drewes, a St. Louis must, trips to the batting cages to relieve stress, drawing with chalk, bike riding, and walks to Concordia’s fields. Once May 14th is over, and I have freshman year under my belt, I will be a much happier, un-stressed person! I cannot wait for next year to live in Medaille and have my own room. I feel like sophomore year will just be all around better in many ways.

I needed to write this blog because sometimes just ranting about stress makes you feel a little less stressed. I apologize to anyone who read this, but thank you for helping me :)

Happy Exams, and “may the odds be ever in your favor”! (Hunger Games quote)