The transition from high school to college can bring out a lot of emotions you didn’t expect. College, especially if you live on campus, is a totally different lifestyle than what you were used to in high school. The change of environment can have more of an impact on you than what you thought it would. Everyone deals with the transition differently and experiences different feelings when coming to college.
Personally when coming to college my freshman year, I struggled with being homesick. Even though I only lived about an hour and a half away from my home, I still missed it a lot. I made a great group of friends during my first semester at Fontbonne, but still missed my family and friends back home. I used to go home every weekend that I possibly could, but always regretted not staying on campus. I would see my Fontbonne friends posting pictures on Facebook of their fun weekends spent at Forest Park or trying out a new restaurant at The Loop.
I struggled a lot with deciding to spend weekends on campus or going home to see my family. I wanted so desperately to hang out with my new friends, but I hated feeling homesick. I soon came to realize that it’s okay to feel homesick sometimes. It’s just a side effect of moving away from your home you’ve known all your life. Things get better!
Coming to college was a brand new experience for me. It was a completely different environment from what I ever experienced. Of course I learned as I went along, picking up pieces of information along the way. However, I wish I had known one major thing before I came to college. That piece of information is the importance of relationships with people and accepting advice when needed. The people here taught me to accept advice and, even, to actually use it. I’ve always been a very stubborn person, I didn’t realize that this was hindering me from improvement. The people I met in my first week of college alone taught me this important lesson. New experiences can open your eyes to a different point of view an the people here has shown me that. I listen more intently now and realize that I can’t always be set in my ways. Change is a vital part of life, you must learn to accept this. If you follow tradition you might be steered down the same path you were going, that path may not be the best thing for you. People and your connections with them really matter. Before, I was too stubborn for my own good and I can admit it now. However, I now listen more and that is what I wish I had known.
You might be surprised to hear that I changed in just 3-4 months here at college. That’s what this place does to you. It makes you wonder what else is out there. The faculty and students here were my catalyst to thinking more about other points of view, thus improving my understanding of a variety of things. The people here are influential, it doesn’t take long to realize that. When you come to Fontbonne, things change for the better. You become what you really want to become and learn that change is important and beneficial for you. In the short months I’ve been here, I’ve learned so much. I’ve learned to accept change and I think that’s the most surprising thing about Fontbonne. The influence that it has on you is profound.
“You would never guess what I saw today!” I say to my mother. She pauses before I dramatically respond “A Vinyl Record!” I laugh as I see her anxious expression change to one of slight dissapointment and humor.
I was riding the bus when I noticed it- a man obsessing over his ‘new’ purchase. He fixated on the cover which depicted complex artwork of angels. I gazed, less contently than he, at what I considered a mere vintage artifact. What does he see in those old things I wondered. Does he really have a record player still? Without even realizing it, I unlocked my phone and began to get lost in my own music. Wow have times changed!
Looking at that record made me wonder how things will be in the future. What crazy inventions will outshine our technologies that we love so much, like our high definition headphones, or our convenient smart phones. I mean really, how can these things get any better? By the end of the ride, I too found joy in the vinyl record, for it reminded me that there’s plenty in store for the future!
“There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind” -C.S. Lewis
I know I’m writing this rather late, but it’s the beginning of the long weekend, and the end of my first week of classes. I can’t imagine how many of us are relieved we’ve gotten this far. The first week, full of syllabi and introductions, fosters an idea of the remainder of the semester. Of course we can’t fully gauge this! Yet, I’m sitting here thinking, “It’s going to be looooooooooooong.”
But what’s exciting is the prospect of change! We’re celebrating Martin Luther King Jr. day on Monday, a great pioneer of change, his presence serving another reminder that, inevitably, the only constant is change. You can see this in what’s happening so far. Like the way the four final candidates for the Fontbonne Presidency are coming out of hiding through student and staff panels. Imagine what kind of changes that will make.
Naturally, it’s hard to imagine how that change will impact us when there’s gas to buy, bills to pay, and people to meet. What I’m getting at here is that even though it’s the end of the first week and our first taste of the semester, I can’t wait to see what else this year will reveal. And I hope you are looking forward to it too. Cheerio!