Amidst the craziness that can be college life, there is the inevitable chance that we will make mistakes. Sometimes we make small ones that are easy to fix, and sometimes we make really big ones that feel impossible to overcome. Like forgetting a really important event, or breaking someones’ heart. We are human and the truth is that we aren’t perfect; most people have no desire to make those big mistakes that can feel so heart-wrenching. We also seem to learn some of our most important lessons in life through making those big mistakes. It doesn’t make things any easier, but it can make the future better.
Some of my most necessary life lessons were learned though making pretty epic mistakes — while my gut was yelling at me the whole time to not even get into those situations in the first place. After all the heated words, the pain, the tears, the guilt, came the healing process. How can you heal from something that was your fault to begin with? That was your mistake? You can apologize to whomever else was involved, hoping they will accept and forgive. But I think, more importantly, you should learn to forgive yourself. You can hold your breath waiting to be forgiven by outside parties, and maybe you will be and maybe that’ll help. Forgiving yourself, however, can be more therapeutic than any outside source of comfort. We are human, we stumble, we fall, we get up again and keep moving forward. Life is too short to be so hard on yourself for messing up. Take your time, learn from your mistakes, forgive yourself, and wake up the next morning knowing it’s going to be a better day.
I have learned several things this semester. The first and most important thing I learned is your education has to be high on your priority list. If you are struggling, seek help immediately, it is vital to your success. My course work consisted of budgeting and finance, economics and finance for non-finance managers. These courses have taught me that understanding budgeting and finance can be beneficial in work and your personal life. Both classes were difficult for me but after seeking help I passed the budgeting and finance class, determination has been the key for me. My advice to fellow students during finals is to prioritize, seek help, study and be determined to reach your goals and success.
Oh my gosh, Junior Year – is this real life? I cannot believe that I am more than halfway through college. I can still remember freshman year for the most part but I will say that of course I was not a fan of it – yet who is a fan of their freshman year in high school or college? Looking back I can say that I am proud of myself for making it this far, for the material and content that I have learned thus far, the person that I am continuing to become while in college and much more. I would say that for new students in college, be open to possibilities – be open for new chances that may not seem like the kind of chance that you would take but sounds interesting enough to try out.
College is the place where you can take risks, make mistakes, and learn from those mistakes even before going into the big world, which is great! Take advantage of the time that you have and explore new areas that you may not have expected from yourself before. Example, I did not think that I would change majors at least three times like I did, but if I had not thought about different possibilities then I would not be where I am today. Lastly I want you to think about what Ms. Frizzle said from the show “The Magic School Bus,” which I hope that most of us watched as a kid or else I will really feel odd at this moment: “Take chances, make mistakes, get messy!” Though when we get messy, really remember that we need to pick ourselves back up again and that is what our professors, close friends, and family are all for – to help us through the journey of life especially in college with finding ourselves.
The one thing I wish I had known when I started classes my freshman year was how much more convenient it was to rent books for the semester rather than buy them from the campus bookstore or online either used or new. As a senior now, I’d tell you it’s not bad to buy physical copies, for you’d be at the point where, most likely, the classes you’d be taking later on in your college career would use books that would probably be beneficial to your future career.
Anyway, as I was saying, when I bought my books my freshman year, I didn’t realize later that when you sold them back to the bookstore or online at the end of the semester, it’d be for far less than what you bought them for. I had bought a brand spanking new public speaking book circa 2011 that when I later tried to return online at the end of the year, unopened, because it was the wrong one, the book websites just suggested that I donate it. DONATE A BOOK I PAID LIKE $150 FOR?! I was beyond mad. I had the same problem later on with the science books that I’d buy for like $150 and, when I tried to sell it back, they only want to pay me like $20 for it. I still have those books buried deep in my closest because what’s the point? I mean $20 is $20, but the longer you wait, they go out of date due to new editions and they pay you even less.
Enter BIGWORDS. My lifesaver to this day. All you have to do is find out the ISBN numbers of the textbooks you need (which Fontbonne’s bookstore page can tell you after you look the books up) and BigWords will collectively (you can put all the numbers in separated by commas in the search line!) show you the best AND CHEAPEST deals from a number of textbook sites on which you can rent, buy used, or new. IT GETS BETTER THOUGH. They even will suggest promo codes you can use on the websites to get free shipping, extended rental periods, or discounts. They give you the option for eBooks as well as buying everything from one textbook site compared to a few (By this I mean, they usually have a few books on one site, and a few books on the other, and the deals end up better than putting them on the same). The website is super easy to use and I’ve found that, over the years, can be more beneficial and cheaper than Chegg.
I seriously recommend renting your books. At the end of the semester, all you have to do is print out a prepaid shipping label and drop off your books at UPS or whatever and you’re good to go. I mean, you won’t make money off them, but they’re better off than sitting in your closet because websites or bookstores only offered you a few dollars for them.
Until next week.