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High school, at least for me, was not that long ago. A year ago from this date, I was in my home town and attending daily classes as a Phoenix. So how did I transition from a Phoenix to a Griffin? High school attempts to prepare you for college academically, but it can sadly fail at preparing you emotionally and socially. It took a lot to get used to not being with the people I’ve been in school for years with. No matter how difficult it was, it’s possible and it just happens to be completely worth it.

Emotionally you’re a mess when you graduate high school, these emotions include positive and negative responses to this drastic change. For most people I think the hardest thing to transition to college is meeting new people. Like I said, you have been with the same people for years. It’s weird not seeing them everyday in the halls. However most of all, you miss your friends that you made. I personally had a close group of friends and leaving them was possibly the hardest thing to get used to. Transitioning into knowing so few people, but coming from a place that you knew everyone can be hard. So if you want to keep your high school friends, here are a few things you can do.

1. Forget distance as an excuse to be a forgetful friend

Distance is just a number; it is possible to talk to them still. Giving up on friends because of miles is like getting rid of a perfectly good car because it has a scratch. Facebook allows you to create a group chat and I’ve used it since I got to college. Whenever my friends and I are having a bad day, we message each other. Even if we are having the best day, we tell each other. The trick is to find tools like this one to get in touch with another.

2. Put yourself out there

This sounds extremely similar to dating advice and maybe that’s because it actually works. Dwelling on home will only make matters worse for you when transitioning to college. Dwelling on past friends and what you did with them will make it even worse. Yes, you may be starting over socially. Yes, that may be scary. However, it is totally worth it to meet new people. I love my friends at home and school. I wouldn’t give up them for the world.

3. Do not compare, you can have both worlds

Comparing old and new will just make you upset and ruin your fresh start! Never compare your home life to your college life, it will only make you feel scared. Of course home will seem cozier, but college is a brand new escapade. Don’t waste it comparing it to your life at home and during high school.

Speaking from an experience I just went through, transitioning from high school to college is hard. It can make you feel out of your comfort zone and you should be! It should feel like you’re not where you were before because you should grow into who you want to be. Two different worlds may be hard to handle, but I have a feeling your shoulders are strong enough to hold them both.

 

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If I were to give a new student advice on how to survive college, the first word that would come out of my mouth is, “God.”

It is crucial to have a backbone of faith – in something. By having faith in our Lord, you will have more faith in yourself. When you have more faith in yourself, you feel more motivated to do what you love and live gloriously in college.

I don’t know where I would be without speaking & living with and for God. He walks with me every day…I can feel and hear the Holy Spirit responding to my cries for help and my shouts of joy – especially when I am most distracted by life’s complexities. Those complexities make me so much stronger, and I could not be without the Lord. When I am weak, He carries me, comforts me, and helps me to be back on my own two feet again.

God is not a choice for me. He is necessary and innate. And I absolutely adore my one and only Savior.

P.S. Check out “Jesus Calling” by Sarah Young — it’s an amazing devotional that I think would help just about anyone as a morning pick-me-up, nightly read, or daily reminder!

Ta, ta for now!

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So maybe you think that since I’m a senior, with almost 4 years of college life behind me, I have it all figured out. Not really. I’m just making it up as I go. But I can offer some advice based on my past experiences, good and bad.  All things considered, looking back now – I think I made a pretty good run at it. So here are my thoughts:
1. If you’re thinking about playing a sport, and you have the chance to do it, do it. Being a collegiate athlete, even at the D-3 level, is an experience I will always treasure.
2. When that sport becomes stressful and unenjoyable and forced…quit. I quit track and cross country after 3 and a half years (plus my years spent on teams in high school and grade school) because I was burnt out. It was the best decision I could have made. It’s important to experience college as just a normal student as well, not just a student-athlete.
3. If you don’t like sports or don’t want to play, that’s fine. But join something. You’ll meet people, and be able to participate in something you’re passionate about…or find something you never even knew you were passionate about. And hey, if they don’t have a club or organization that fits you, create one. I started an Environmental Club here at Fontbonne my freshman year and it’s been one of my proudest achievements ever.
4. Go out and have fun. The college life is a short one, and it’s unlike any other experience you’ll ever have. Live it up.
5. But don’t forget you have classes. And don’t fail them. You can rage 24/7 for about a semester before you’re gonna have to drop out. Pick a major that interests you, not just one you think will get you a well-paying job. I love the idea of being a dietitian someday, and the fact that I enjoy my dietetics classes really makes life better.
6. Stay somewhat organized. Find a method that works for you – I use the little sticky notes app on my Mac to make daily to-do lists for myself and note which assignments are due soon. I also write out all major assignments due in each class for the semester and tape the lists to my wall, so I can cross things out when I turn them in. Maybe that’s a little too intense for you, but you gotta stay track of things somehow or you’re gonna be stressed when you find out you had a paper due in class today.
7. BE KIND. Seriously. I hate to say it, but some people I’ve dealt with in college are just….mean. I’m not claiming to be a saint by any stretch, but it’s never a mistake to show kindness to someone. Everyone is going through life at a different pace, and the best choice you can make is to show love at every opportunity presented to you. You won’t ever regret it.

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Words of Wisdom

by Alumni Posts on December 16, 2013

in After College

For days I have been thinking about my future.  What to do after I graduate, should I go ahead and find a job or go straight to do my Phd.  I could do both, but at the same time, I will have to first study  for the GRE.  Fontbonne University does not require Graduate students to take the GRE; hence I have to take it now.  Perhaps you would say to me, go ahead find a job, but at the same time, I wonder what job I will end up having.  I am not even sure if my destiny is to stay in St. Louis or move back to Maryland.  In the mist of all of these  and finishing up my internship. I happened to check my email and found this quote that Sarah Boul, campus minister, sent.  I think it will totally help those of you who are about to graduate or have a major decision to make.

“Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life.” (Philippians 4:6-7, MSG)

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Words of Wisdom from a Friend

by Alumni Posts December 16, 2013

Last night my friend from high school experienced her first robbery since she moved to Chicago 6 years ago.  Now, I don’t know what thief was dumb enough to try and rob this girl, my friend is by no means a helpless damsel in distress.  She is about 5’11”, always wears heels, so that makes […]

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Almost Over!!

by Alumni Posts May 12, 2011

Well, I can’t believe it, but my freshman year at Fontbonne is finally coming to a close. The ending is bittersweet – like any student, I’m excited for the coming of summer and reuniting with old friends, but at the same time it will be difficult to leave all my new friends behind. If I […]

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