If I could give any advice to the pre-Fontbonne me I would definitely tell her to not stress so much. Understand that you cannot be in control of absolutely everything in life. I would also tell myself that I was going to end up a planner and that was going to be tough for me because I cannot control everything. I did not know this as a freshman coming into college and if I could prep myself for that I know I would not have stressed so much when I did not have control.
I would also tell myself to actually go to class. Even though I thought I did not need to and that I was free from mom and dad I was not a genius. I would tell myself to get up out of bed even if I had the worst headache. Unless I was vomiting or unable to move I should have gone to classes all the time.
Another piece of advice I would give myself is to not sleep so often. Although taking naps always felt amazing, I was only hurting friendship and wasting time to spend with those friends I had made.
The last piece of advice I would give is to attend the Freshman orientation. I would have made so many friends much quicker and would not have struggled so much in my first year. I skipped my orientation and although I made many friends here at Fontbonne, it was not without challenge.
Go to orientation, Go to class, and DO NOT sleep so much!
I know it was only a few short years ago but it’s hard to imagine a time before Fontbonne. Yet I can still remember some of the fears and anxieties I had about starting college. I look back on that time and I’m thoroughly confused–there was nothing to be afraid of!
Here is some advice for my pre-Fontbonne self:
- Above all: trust yourself. If you’re doubting yourself, have faith. You know what to do. Sometimes it’s easier to say and think that you’re incapable. Know that you will fail (frequently) but that’s just part of life. Failing actually means you’re progressing.
- Don’t settle. Before Fontbonne, you had a rough idea of what you wanted to do but you didn’t know what specifically. That’s okay–just take comfort in knowing that you will find something you love (actually many things!). One of the most important things I’ve learned at Fontbonne is that you can find a way to make your dreams tangible.
- It’s okay if you don’t adjust right away. After only a few weeks at Fontbonne you started panicking. You weren’t fitting in like all your friends were at their colleges. You were basing your entire future experience on only a few weeks of getting adjusted. Give it time. Because in a few short months you are going to love it.
- Just go for it: In grade school and even in high school you were the shy kid. You were scared what people would think of you and base your intelligence off of wrong answers and your quirky, unconventional personality. In college, you won’t be afraid to be yourself. This might surprise you, but you are going to take a lot of chances and meet a lot of wonderful people and do so many amazing things! You’ll sit in front in your classes, ask questions and answer questions, and speak your mind!
- Balance: It really is the key. In the past your anxiety has caused you to miss some cool opportunities. On the other hand, you also know that some things are just too much for you–and that’s okay! You can find a way to do things that are out of your comfort zone without sending yourself into a panic. It’s all a matter of knowing what you can tackle and what you can’t. (For example, hang out with friends one night but take some time to recharge at home the next.) Also, don’t worry so much! If there’s an event you want to participate in, don’t worry hours beforehand what it will be like. Fontbonne people are amazingly sweet and forgiving–you will be in excellent company, so don’t stress!
If I could give my pre-Fontbonne self any advice, it would most definitely be to relax and quit planning. I remember that by the time I was 18, I had my entire future planned out, minute by minute. I was going to go to this school, join that friend group, choose this major, become that person, and work this job. I thought I knew how everything was going to pan out, and was both surprised and mildly disappointed when my life went in the exact opposite direction that I had planned for it. Literally, nothing that I had hoped was going to happen did. It wasn’t until I was a little older and started to accept certain things that I realized that my plans going awry was actually an incredibly beautiful thing! I ended up amazing making friends that I never would have, found a major that actually interested me, and learned things about myself that I never would have had life gone the way I’d planned. So I would tell pre-Fontbonne Taylor, relax, enjoy the moment, and accept that what is coming is mostly out of your control, and it’s going to be great!
Have an awesome week everyone!