I know it was only a few short years ago but it’s hard to imagine a time before Fontbonne. Yet I can still remember some of the fears and anxieties I had about starting college. I look back on that time and I’m thoroughly confused–there was nothing to be afraid of!
Here is some advice for my pre-Fontbonne self:
- Above all: trust yourself. If you’re doubting yourself, have faith. You know what to do. Sometimes it’s easier to say and think that you’re incapable. Know that you will fail (frequently) but that’s just part of life. Failing actually means you’re progressing.
- Don’t settle. Before Fontbonne, you had a rough idea of what you wanted to do but you didn’t know what specifically. That’s okay–just take comfort in knowing that you will find something you love (actually many things!). One of the most important things I’ve learned at Fontbonne is that you can find a way to make your dreams tangible.
- It’s okay if you don’t adjust right away. After only a few weeks at Fontbonne you started panicking. You weren’t fitting in like all your friends were at their colleges. You were basing your entire future experience on only a few weeks of getting adjusted. Give it time. Because in a few short months you are going to love it.
- Just go for it: In grade school and even in high school you were the shy kid. You were scared what people would think of you and base your intelligence off of wrong answers and your quirky, unconventional personality. In college, you won’t be afraid to be yourself. This might surprise you, but you are going to take a lot of chances and meet a lot of wonderful people and do so many amazing things! You’ll sit in front in your classes, ask questions and answer questions, and speak your mind!
- Balance: It really is the key. In the past your anxiety has caused you to miss some cool opportunities. On the other hand, you also know that some things are just too much for you–and that’s okay! You can find a way to do things that are out of your comfort zone without sending yourself into a panic. It’s all a matter of knowing what you can tackle and what you can’t. (For example, hang out with friends one night but take some time to recharge at home the next.) Also, don’t worry so much! If there’s an event you want to participate in, don’t worry hours beforehand what it will be like. Fontbonne people are amazingly sweet and forgiving–you will be in excellent company, so don’t stress!