Amidst the craziness that can be college life, there is the inevitable chance that we will make mistakes. Sometimes we make small ones that are easy to fix, and sometimes we make really big ones that feel impossible to overcome. Like forgetting a really important event, or breaking someones’ heart. We are human and the truth is that we aren’t perfect; most people have no desire to make those big mistakes that can feel so heart-wrenching. We also seem to learn some of our most important lessons in life through making those big mistakes. It doesn’t make things any easier, but it can make the future better.
Some of my most necessary life lessons were learned though making pretty epic mistakes — while my gut was yelling at me the whole time to not even get into those situations in the first place. After all the heated words, the pain, the tears, the guilt, came the healing process. How can you heal from something that was your fault to begin with? That was your mistake? You can apologize to whomever else was involved, hoping they will accept and forgive. But I think, more importantly, you should learn to forgive yourself. You can hold your breath waiting to be forgiven by outside parties, and maybe you will be and maybe that’ll help. Forgiving yourself, however, can be more therapeutic than any outside source of comfort. We are human, we stumble, we fall, we get up again and keep moving forward. Life is too short to be so hard on yourself for messing up. Take your time, learn from your mistakes, forgive yourself, and wake up the next morning knowing it’s going to be a better day.